Isibonelo sokwehlukana kobulili sikhona ekukholweni ukuthi ngumsebenzi wesifazane, ngenxa yokuthi ubulili bakhe (abesifazane) bahlale ekhaya futhi banakekele izingane zabo.
Ezinye izibonelo zifaka inkolelo yokuthi abesifazane abakwazi ukwenza izinqumo kanye namadoda ngoba abesifazane bathola isikhathi sabo namadoda.
Isibonelo sokucwaswa ngokobulili kungaba uma owesifazane enqatshelwe umsebenzi, noma ekhokhwa ngaphansi komuntu ozokhokhwa, noma wathola isinxephezelo esincane nesinzuzo kuphela ngenxa yesifazane. E-United States, ukubandlulula noma ubani ngesisekelo sobulili babo ngokobulili kungekho emthethweni, kodwa kwenzeke ngaso sonke isikhathi (nakho kwenzeka kumadoda.)
Ukushintsha Ubuso Bobandlululo Bobulili
Ukuze kube khona ushintsho emisebenzini eyaziwa ngokobulili, ukucabangela okubalulekile okubili kubalulekile:
- Bobabili ubulili buyinkinga ngokuzimele : Abesilisa nabesifazane bobabili abanezindima zobulili ezichazwe yinoma yimuphi umphakathi onikeziwe, futhi izindima zobulili nezinkolelo ezithandwayo zidalwe futhi ziqhutshelwa phambili yizo zobulili zombili. Ngendlela efanayo, abesifazane abayena kuphela abafuna ukulingana, amadoda amaningi futhi alwela kanzima amalungelo abesifazane. Ukucabanga okuqhamuka emphakathini akusiyo yonke into okuphumelelayo - kuthatha kuphela i-agent eyodwa yokuguqulwa ukuze isebenzise njenge-catalyst yokuvikela amalungelo kwanoma ubani noma ngabe ungowesifazane, umphakathi we-gay, noma abakhubazekile. Isibonelo, abaqashi abaningi basabandlulula abantu ngenxa yezizathu zokungcebeleka - ngokusobala, inqubo yabo yokucabangela isemva kwezikhathi. Kodwa uma benza kanjalo, basesephula umthetho.
- Izindinganiso Zomphakathi Kumelwe Zishintshwe: Izindinganiso zobulili nokuzikhohlisa ziholela endaweni yokusebenza ngokumelene nabesifazane kanye namadoda - nasemphakathini omkhulu. Ukuze imikhuba yokubandlulula iqedwe, ushintsho kumele luqale ngamanani omphakathi kanye nemicabango, kodwa amalungelo alinganayo kumele agcizelelwe yimithetho ngoba amalunga omphakathi ngabanye ngeke ahlale ecabanga ngendlela efanayo.
Amadoda Akufanele Ashukunwe Njengesitha
Amadoda akufanele aphathwe njengesitha. Abesifazane kudingeka bafune ushintsho emibonweni yomphakathi - okubandakanya ukushintsha indlela abanye abantu abacabanga ngayo, kodwa kubandakanya ukushintsha ukuthi bangaki abesifazane abacabangayo.
Izitha zangempela ezithinta ubulili ukungazi, ukungabekezelelani, kanye nemiphakathi eqhubekayo ephikisana noshintsho. Uma sigxeka amadoda ngokucwaswa ngokobulili senza izinto ezimbili:
- Khumbula ukuthi abesifazane, abangamaphesenti angama-50% emphakathini womhlaba (kubo bonke abesilisa abangu-107 abazalwa lapho bazalwa ngamadoda ayikhulu), nabo badlala indima enkulu ekuchazeni ubulili emiphakathini.
- Ngokusola abantu ngokubiza zonke izibhamu, sisho ngokungaqondile ukuthi abesifazane besisulu sezisulu zomphakathi, futhi lokho akulona iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Kukhona Izingozi Ezingokoqobo Kwabesifazane Abafuna Ukuguquka
Emazweni lapho abesifazane baboshiwe khona, bahlukunyezwa noma babulawa ngenxa yokuqinisekisa amalungelo abo, bayisisulu sohulumeni babo, imiphakathi kanye namasiko abo. Kula mazwe, ukuguqulwa kunzima ukufeza futhi kuvame ukuyingozi. Emazweni lapho kutholakala khona ubukhosi obukhulu ngokweqile, abesifazane bahlulwa amalungelo abo nesithunzi.
Nakuba lezi zinhlangano ezithweswa abantu abesilisa zixhomeke ekuziphatheni kobulili ukuthi amadoda aphakeme, eziningi zalezi zengqondo zivela ezinkolelweni zenkolo, kanye nemasiko, amasiko nemikhuba eneminyaka eyizinkulungwane, ngisho nabesifazane abaye bahamba kancane kunselele - ngokuqondakalayo, ngaphandle yokwesaba impilo yabo, kodwa futhi ngenxa yokuhlonipha izindinganiso ezide.
Abesifazane batshayelwa ukuzithoba ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo ngemiphakathi yabo, bangase bamane nje bamukele "lokho kuyindlela nje."
Kodwa abase-United States abesifazane abakhishwa ngamatshe ngenxa yokugqoka izikhindi ebhishi noma ukumanga umuntu emphakathini. Abesifazane base-US banemithetho evikela amalungelo abo okuzifakazela, kuhlanganise nelungelo lokuvota nokufaka amacala okulwa nabaqashi ababandlulula. Izinto azihlali zisebenza ngaso sonke isikhathi (abesifazane basengaphansi kwesilazi sokungilazi kanye nokukhokha okungalingani) kodwa sisenenkululeko yokukhuluma, yokulwa, inselelo nokushintsha.