Ngokuyinhloko, le mibuzo elandelayo ingacelwa ukuthi inqume ukuthi ungumdlali weqembu. Thatha imizuzwana embalwa, uma ubuzwa umbuzo onzima , ngaphambi kokuthi uphendule. Umuntu oxoxisana naye akalindele ukuba ube nempendulo ekulungele. Nokho, i-Motto Boy Scout, "Yilungiselele" ngokuqinisekile isebenza lapha futhi.
Nazi ezinye izibonelo zemibuzo yokuxoxwa komsebenzi kanye nezimpendulo mayelana nokubhekana nokuphikisana okusebenza eqenjini labasebenzisana nabo nabaphathi.
Ngitshele ngesikhatsi lapho kwadingeka ubhekane nesisebenzi esisebenza naye owayengenzi ingxenye yakhe enhle yomsebenzi. Wenzeni futhi waba yini umphumela?
Ngasebenza eduze no-Ann, okwakuyingxenye enkulu, wayehlala ephethe ingxenye yakhe enhle yomsebenzi. Ngesikhathi esicindezelayo, ngisebenzela iphrojekthi ngesikhatsi sokugcina, ngabona ukuthi iminikelo ka-Ann emisebenzini yayiyinto encane. Ngenze isinqumo sokulinda kuze kube yilapho iphrojekthi izokhuluma naye. Ngiyajabula ngokuthi ngenzile ngoba ngifunde ukuthi ubelokhu ngibhekene nesikhathi esibucayi kakhulu empilweni yakhe siqu futhi wazisa ukuzimisela kwami ukuhamba ngenye indlela, ngakho-ke iphrojekthi yaqedwa ngesikhathi. Ngenxa yalokho, ikhono lethu lokusebenzisana kahle landa kakhulu.
Nginike isibonelo sesikhathi ozithathile ngaso isikhathi sokuba wabelane ngempumelelo yomsebenzi wesisebenzi noma umphathi?
Esikhundleni sami samanje, omunye wabasebenzi bami, uDan, wenza umsebenzi ovelele wokuthobisa ikhasimende eliyingozi, ukuxazulula inkinga yekhasimende nokuqedela ukudayiswa. Lapho umphathi wethu engibuza ukuthi izinto zihamba kanjani, ngimtshele ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle nokuthi uDan usanda kuqeda ukuthulisa ikhasimende elikhukhumezayo nokuvala ukudayiswa.
Kwakuyi-win-win-win- kumphathi wethu, uDan, kanye nomthengi.
Ngitshele ngesikhashana ukuthi awuzange usebenze kahle nomphathi. Waba yini umphumela futhi ungayishintsha kanjani umphumela?
Ekuqaleni komsebenzi wami, nginomphathi (Judy) owayenomqondo omuhle ngoMsombuluko, kodwa wahlaselwa usuku ngalunye waze, ngoLwesihlanu, umphathi wayesephutha ngakho konke engakwenza. Angizange ngiqaphele, ngize ngishiye leso sikhundla, ukuthi ngibe ngumthelela ekunciphiseni kwemizwa yakhe. UJudy ungangibuza ukuthi impelasonto yami yayiyi (ngoMsombuluko) futhi phakathi nesonto wayezobuza ukuthi kwenzekani. Ngingamtshela indlela engangijabulisa ngayo (ngangingashadile) nokuthi ngangikulindele kangakanani izinhlelo zamasonto onke. Ngemva kokuhamba, ngabona ukuthi impilo yami yayihluke ngokuphelele kuye futhi ngimkhumbuza cishe nsuku zonke. Lapho ebuza le mibuzo, ngabe kufanele ngithole impendulo esheshayo, bese ngimbuza ukuthi wayenzani!
Uke wasebenza nomuntu ongamthandi? Uma kunjalo, uliphatha kanjani?
Yebo, ngisebenze nomuntu engangikuthola kunzima ukumthanda njengomuntu. Kodwa-ke, lapho ngigxile emakhono awanikele emsebenzini, ikhono labo lokuxazulula izinkinga nezinto ezimbili engangizibonga, kancane kancane isimo sengqondo sami kubo sashintsha.
Sasingakaze sibe abangane, kodwa sasebenza kahle ndawonye.
Ungangitshela ngesikhatsi osize othile?
Iningi lwakamuva, sine-hira entsha (Paul) eyayinzima kakhulu ekusebenzeni ngesikhathi, futhi ngangazi ukuthi umphathi (uHarry) wayecasuliwe. Ngosuku olusemini ngelinye ilanga ngichazela kuPawulu ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kumphathi wethu wonke umuntu ukuba abe khona okungenani imizuzu eyishumi ekuseni. Kwakuyimuntu noHarry, kodwa ungangena ehlangothini lwakhe olubi lapho uhlala uphuzile. Isisebenzi esisha sabonga iseluleko. Ekusebenzeni kwakhe kwangaphambili, umphathi wayekhathazeka kuphela ngomsebenzi okwenziwa ngesikhathi; yena "akazange alinde iwashi."
Ngabe ungangitshela ngesikhatsi oye wafakaza kabi umuntu?
Kwakukhona isisebenzi sesikhathi eside (uGeorge) enkampanini yami yesibili owayesekhulile lapho ekhuluma nami.
Ekuqaleni, ngahamba ukuze ngithole imvume kaGeorge. Ngabe sengibona ukuthi kwakuyinkimbinkimbi yenkinga. Ngakho ngabona indlela asebenzisana ngayo nabanye abasebenzi futhi ngathola ukuthi angingedwa. Wayekhathazeka kubantu abaningi. Ngayeka ukuzama ukwamukelwa nguye, futhi, lapho kutholakala, wafunda ukuthi wayefunde ukuziphatha kwakhe kumuntu owayengumqashi owayengumthandayo.
Uhlangana kanjani nabasebenzi abakhulu (abasha)?
Impendulo ephakanyisiwe uma osebenza nabo bekhulile: Kunezikhathi lapho ngiyazi nje ukuthi indlela entsha yokwenza into yenza kube mnandi kimi; kodwa, okokuqala, ngafunda ukuthi "indlela engcono" yami engase ingabi yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola umsebenzi. Ngenxa yalokho, ngiyahlonipha abasebenzi bami abasebenza nabo abadala futhi ngifunde indlela yokwenza isiphakamiso ngesikhathi esifanele.
Impendulo ephakanyisiwe uma abasebenzi bakho bebancane: Ngaqaphela ngokushesha ukuthi kwakungeyena umsebenzi wami "umzali" abantu abancane engisebenza nabo; kwakungumsebenzi wami ukuba ngazi futhi sithole indawo evumelana lapho singasebenza khona ngokuphumelelayo. Kuthatha isikhathi, kodwa umphumela wawufanele umzamo.