Iningi lamathemba athengwa ngokusekelwe emoyeni, hhayi ukucabanga. Bakhetha ukuthenga ngoba "uzizwa ulungile," bese usebenzisa i-logical ukuze ubeke isinqumo kubo. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthi wenze ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo phakathi kwethemba nokuthi yini oyithengisayo, kulula ukuthi uzothola ukuvala ukuthengisa.
Umsebenzi wakho njengomthengisi ukusiza amathemba ukubona izinzuzo abazothola ngokubamba umkhiqizo wakho.
Izinzuzo zonke zinokwenza ngokomzwelo; yilokho okwenza bahluke kuzici futhi yingakho bephumelela ekuthengiseni ngenkathi befunda uhlu lwezimpawu nje kwenza amehlo ahlolisise amehlo. Ungakwazi futhi kufanele uqale inqubo yokuxhumeka kwenzuzo kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala wokuxhumana. Lokhu kuzovame ukwenzeka ngesikhathi sokushayela ucingo .
Ngesikhathi sokushayela kwakho okubandayo, ungaqali ngokuphonsela izinzuzo zomkhiqizo wakho. Kunalokho, qala ngokukhuluma ngezinzuzo zakho. Ngalesi sikhathi ithemba alikwazi noma linakekele ngomkhiqizo wakho; Isinyathelo sakho sokuqala kufanele sibe ukukhombisa ukuthi kungani ungumthombo onokwethenjelwa wolwazi. Ithemba kufanele likholwe kuwe kuqala ngaphambi kokuba akholelwe lokho okushoyo ngomkhiqizo wakho. Ngakho-ke qala ngokutshela lokho okukwenzayo, ngendlela ephoqelela. Ungafaki isingeniso sakho ngezwi lesayensi. Khumbula, umgomo ukuxhuma ezingeni lomzwelo, hhayi okuqondakalayo.
Isibonelo, uma uthengisa umshuwalense, isingeniso sakho kungenzeka ukuthi unikeza amakhasimende akho ukuthula kwengqondo ngekusasa.
Kunezindlela ezimbili ezikhona zokuthengisa ngokomzwelo: indlela enhle kanye nendlela engalungile. Indlela engalungile ivame ukusetshenziswa kakhulu ngabathengisi. Ngokuyinhloko, kusho ukuveza umkhiqizo wakho njengokwelashwa noma ukuvimbela ubuhlungu obukhulu obubhekene nalokho.
Indlela enhle, ngakolunye uhlangothi, iveza umkhiqizo njengento eyokwenza izinto ezinhle zenzeke esikhathini esizayo. Amathemba amaningi athatha kangcono indlela eyodwa noma enye, ngakho-ke kuwumqondo omuhle ukucubungula kusenesikhathi ngokuthi yikuphi uhlobo lwethemba onalo.
Isikhathi esihle sokunquma ukuthi iyiphi indlela oyisebenzisayo ekuqaleni kwenkomfa yakho, njengengxenye yemibuzo yakho efanelekayo . Ngokuvamile kuphephile kakhulu ukuqala ngemibuzo emihle, njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi uzothola ukungathandeki kunemibuzo engemihle. Imibuzo efanelekayo ingabandakanya, "Uzibona kuphi unyaka kusuka manje? Yini oyithemba ukuyithola kulo mhlangano? Ube usucabanga isikhathi esingakanani ngokuthenga? "Njalo njalo. Le mibuzo ithinta imizwelo yakhe emihle ehlobene nomkhiqizo futhi ikunikeze inkomba mayelana nokulindela kwakhe.
Imibuzo engalungile yenza kube nokwesaba, ngakho amanye amathemba azoba nomthelela ekuphenduleni. Le mibuzo ingafaka, "Iyini inkinga yakho enkulu okwamanje? Kuze kube nini ube nale nkinga? Kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe ukuyixazulula? "Njalo njalo. Ungabona ukuthi eminye yemibono emihle neyimihle ifana ngokufanayo: isibonelo, "Uze ucabanga isikhathi esingakanani ngokuthenga?" Nokuthi "Ube neyinkinga isikhathi esingakanani?" Baseduze kakhulu.
Umehluko wukuthi owokuqala ugxile kulokho okulindeleke ukuthi kufinyelelwe khona, kuyilapho eyesibili igxile kulokhu afuna ukuxazulula. Owokuqala ubeka ithemba, kuyilapho lesibili senza ukwesaba.
Uma usuhlanganise izinto eziyisisekelo futhi ufunde kancane mayelana nethemba lakho, ungenza uxhumano lwakho lomzwelo lube oluqondile nakakhulu . Isibonelo, uma ufunda ukuthi ucabangela ukuthenga umshuwalense ngoba umkakhe ukhathazekile ngokushiywa ngaphandle kokusekelwa ngokwezimali, ungacela into ethi, "Ucabanga ukuthi Marie uzozizwa kanjani ngalolu khetho lomgomo?" Ngokusebenzisa igama lomkakhe uxhumano nomkhiqizo, wenza kube yinto engokoqobo kakhulu kuye futhi uzoqala ukufanekisa lokho okuzokwenzeka ngemuva kokuthenga kwakho - okwenza kube lula kakhulu ukuthi empeleni, uyokwenza ukukhetha ukuthenga.