Kungani Ukusebenza-Ukulinganisela Ukuphila Kuphumelela Kwabaningi Abesifazane
Abesifazane baningi amathuba okudunyiswa ngokuba ngabafazi nabomama abakhulu ngaphambi kokuba babhekiswe kubuningi ngokuthi "abahlinzeki abahle."
Amadoda avame ukulindelwa ukuba abe nobudlova ebhizinisini - ukuba abe abahambahambayo futhi abagxeka kakhulu ngokubeka umsebenzi ngaphambi komndeni ngoba, ekugcineni, bakhonza imindeni yabo ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi izidingo zabo zihlangene ngenzuzo ehloniphekile. Abesifazane bacatshangwa ukuthi baningi kakhulu futhi abaphumelelanga kakhulu ebhizinisini - okunye okuboniswa izibalo akuyona into eqinisile.
Intengo Yempumelelo
Lapho abesifazane bezama ukufeza impumelelo bavame ukukhunjuzwa ukuthi intengo yokusebenza (noma ukutadisha) ibuyele ekupheleni kwezindleko zabashade babo, izingane, nabangani, futhi ngisho nezindleko zabo siqu (okwakutshelwe ukuthi uzozisola umsebenzi manje ngoba ulahlekelwa yimpilo yabantu abancane bakho?)
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi emiphakathini eminingi emhlabeni wonke, amadoda anikezwa ukuthi abesifazane abakutholakali uma kuziwa ekuchazeni izindima okufanele zidlale ekuphileni.
Futhi uma "yena" enakho konke, kuyinto ehloniphekile, uma "yena" enakho konke owesifazane angase abuzwe mayelana nezindinganiso zakhe nezinto ezibalulekile ekuphileni kwakhe.
Amadoda Asebenza Ngempumelelo Ekutholeni Okufunayo
Ngokuvamile amadoda angcono ekuqinisekiseni nasekudaleni izidingo zawo. I-biology, imvelo nomphakathi kangcono kubalungiselela abafana ukuba babe abantu abadala njengabaholi kunamantombazane.
Amantombazane anikezwa amadonsa ukudlala futhi angadangelwa ukuphishekela amasimu kanye nesayensi, futhi ngokuqinisekile, abambalwa bangase bathi abesifazane banesikhathi esicindezelayo sokuqala ezweni elibambisene kunamadoda amaningi.
Ukuba nobudlova kungaba yikhwalithi enkulu uma ihlushwa ngokuvuthwa; Ukuba nobudlova ngezindlela ezifanele kungasiza kakhulu iningi lethu ukuthola okuningi ekuphileni - kodwa abesifazane abaningi bavame ukungamahloni ngokucela ukuthi babe nezidingo zabo siqu.
Amadoda angase abe namathuba amaningi okususa igalofu, ukulala, ukubukela ezemidlalo, noma ukuya esiteshini sokuzivocavoca kunowesifazane ngoba uma owesifazane enza isidingo, angase abonakale enesizungu, emhlophe noma njengomama onobugovu / umfazi.
Amadoda Angewona Amabi, Kodwa Abesifazane Benawo Ababi
Njengabesifazane, amadoda angaba ngabahlengikazi abakhulu, usizo-bahlangane, futhi basekela ngobuqotho besifazane empilweni yabo - kodwa amadoda namanje angase abone ukuthi abalingani babo bafuna ngokucacile njengoba abesifazane besakwazi njalo. Yize lokhu kungase kuzwakale njengokwenziwa okujwayelekile, ngisho namadoda asekela kakhulu futhi abasiza angadinga abalingani bawo besifazane ukuba babatshele ukuthi yini abayifunayo nabayidingayo. Yilapho i-old cliché ethi "Amadoda avela kuMars kanti Abesifazane bavela kuVenus" bangase basebenze kahle. Abesilisa nabesifazane bacabange ngokungafani ngezinto eziningi, kepha amadoda azosiza njalo - ikakhulukazi uma kunenkinga yokuxazulula uma bazi kuphela ukuthi inkinga iyini.
Ubufakazi obusekela izinkolelo eziqhubekayo kucacile futhi zigcwele emhlabeni womsebenzi. Abesifazane bakhokhelwa ngaphansi kwamadoda ukwenza imisebenzi efanayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi baphendukezelwe ukukhuthazwa, futhi ukuphakamisa kwabo kuncane. Amadoda akalokothi ahlasele "igumbi lokulala" - lelo gama ladalwa ukuchaza isikhubekiso esithinta kuphela abesifazane.
Abesifazane abasencane bavame ukubhekwa njengabamama abangashadile. Futhi, iqiniso liwukuthi amamazana angashadile angamancane, kodwa lokhu kufana kakhulu nokulinganiselwa komphakathi nezomnotho okuvame ukususelwa ekubandlululweni kanye namathuba ambalwa kunokuba abe ngabancane. Ngeshwa kunoma yimuphi umuntu omncane - owesilisa noma wesifazane, ukungalingani kukhona: sebenza kanzima, ukhokhelwe kancane ngoba ungumncane. Uma kuziwa emalini engenayo, abesifazane abayingcosana dollar-for-dollar benza okungaphansi komphakathi wonke.
Ngakho-ke abesifazane bangadinga kanjani ukusebenza amahora amaningi kunomuntu ukuze bathole ngokwanele ukuhlinzekela imindeni yabo ukuthi kufanele ibe "ngcono" ekuxhumaniseni izimpilo zabo?
Kusukela nini lapho kunesidumbu esibi?
Abesifazane nabo bangabhekwa njengabalingani abangathandekayo kakhulu bokubambisana nezikhundla ezibalulekile ezinkampanini ngenxa ye "ingozi" yokuthi bangakhulelwa futhi baphonsa imisebenzi yabo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Inhlangano isabheka abesifazane njengabafazi nabomama kuqala, futhi ekupheleni kowesifazane "uhlu", njengamandla okuphatha ezomnotho. Ngenxa yalokhu kucabanga, kulindeleke ukuthi lapho ingane izalwa abesifazane bayothatha isikhathi, noma bayeke imisebenzi yabo ukuze bakhulise umndeni. Amadoda ayabonwa njengokungqubuzana komndeni "okukhethwa kengozi," nezinkampani eziningi e-United States azivumeli ngisho namadoda ukuthatha ikhefu lokubeletha ukusiza ekhaya nezingane ezincane ngisho nalapho befuna.
Inkinga akuyona nje ukuthi abesifazane kumele baqhubeke nokulwa ukungalingani ngokobulili - into esiye silwa (mhlawumbe) kusukela isikhathi saqala. Inkinga yukuthi izidingo ezintsha kanye nokwahlulelwa kwabesifazane kulindeleke ukuthi zifinyelele ibhalansi engcono "yokusebenza komsebenzi" kuye kwanezela kuphela kumacwecwe ethu.
Inkinga, "ukulingana nomsebenzi", uma ucabangela lokho okuhloswe ukukusho, cishe uzwakala sengathi kwakhiwa umuntu ngoba kuphakamisa ukuthi singaba nemisebenzi, izinsana, kanye nendlu ehlanzekile uma sibeka phambili futhi sisebenza kunzima 'ukulinganisa' izimpilo zethu. Futhi, uma sikwazi lokhu, singase sithole "isikhathi sokuziphatha okuhle" esizozichitha thina.