Ukudala izinhlamvu eziyinkimbinkimbi, ezihlelekile kudinga isikhathi sicabanga ukuthi abalingiswa bakho babukeka kanjani, bavelaphi, nokuthi yini ebashukumisayo, phakathi kwezinye izinto eziningi. Indlela enhle yokusiza ukuletha abalingiswa bakho empilweni nokusetha indaba yabo emuva ukuthuthukisa izimpendulo kwisethi yemibuzo ngabo.
Ngenkathi ulwazi oluningi oluthuthukisa abalingiswa bakho phakathi nenqubo ngeke lukwabelwane ngokuqondile nabafundi, luzokusiza ukuba uqonde umlingisi kangcono futhi ubonise ngokucacile ukuthi bazosabela kanjani ezimweni nakwezinye izinhlamvu endabeni yakho. Uma wazi ngokwengeziwe ngabalingiswa bakho, indaba yakho ingokoqobo.
01 Uphi uhlamvu lwakho luhlala kuphi?
Ukwazi ukuthi umlingiswa wakho uhlala kuphi kungakusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi angasabela kanjani kubantu abathile noma izimo.
02 Uphi uhlamvu lwakho kusuka?
Ngomqondo ofanayo, impilo yomlingisi wakho yaqala kuphi? Ingabe wakhulela egijima ezungeze izinkuni edolobhaneni elincane eliseningizimu, noma wafunda ukuguqula izenzi zesiLatini esikoleni saseLondon esikoleni? Ngokusobala, lokhu kuthonya izinto ezinjengezinhlobo zabantu abakujwayele uhlamvu lwakho, amagama asebenzisayo ukuxhumana, nendlela azizwa ngayo ngezinto eziningi ezweni lakhe langaphandle.
03 Uneminyaka engakanani uhlamvu lwakho?
Nakuba lokhu kungase kubonakale njengombuzo obonakalayo, kubalulekile ukwenza isinqumo esicacile ngalokhu ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukubhala. Uma kungenjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuthola imininingwane efanele. Isibonelo, ingabe uhlamvu lwakho lungaba nomakhalekhukhwini, indawo ehlala kuyo, noma kokubili? Ingabe uhlamvu lwakho luphuza i-martinis noma ubhiya oshibhile? Ingabe usayithola imali kubazali bakhe, noma ukhathazeke ngalokho okuzokwenzeka kubazali bakhe njengoba bekhula?
04 Uyini uhlamvu lwakho olubizwa ngokuthi?
Ingabe i-rose ngegama elinye iphunga elimnandi? Ngokusho komlobi wezinkampani u-Elinor Lipman, akunjalo neze: "Amagama anemibhalo engezansi kanye nobunikazi. Uma abalingiswa bakho abakhulu be-Kaplans, uthola ivelidi yamaJuda, futhi uma iqhawe lakho linguSmedley Winthrop III, umnike isikhwama sokuthembela. I-nomenclature eyenziwe ngakwesokudla ifaka isandla ekwenzeni izibalo. " Igama lomlingiswa wakho linikeza ulwazi oluningi mayelana nobuhlanga, ubudala, isizinda, kanye nesigaba somphakathi.
05 Ubunikazi bakho bubukeka bunjani?
Ingabe uhlamvu lwakho lude ngokwanele ukubona ngaphezulu kwamakhanda esixuku ebhajini noma ukubona uthuli phezulu esiqandisini? Ingabe usebenzisana nezinkinga zesisindo futhi ugweme ukuzibuka esibukweni? Nakuba ungadingeki ube nesithombe esicacile se-uhlamvu lwakho engqondweni yakho, imininingwane yomzimba ikusiza ukuthi ucabange ukuthi uhlamvu lwakho luhamba kanjani emhlabeni wonke, futhi lokho, kusiza abafundi bakho bakholwe kumlingiswa.
06 Ubunikazi bakho bunjani?
Njengabantu bangempela, izinto eziningi ngobuntu bomuntu bakho zizonqunywa ngesizinda sakhe. Ingabe abazali bakhe babe nomshado omuhle? Ingabe wakhuliswa umama ongashadile? Indlela umlingisi wakho asebenzisana ngayo nabanye abantu-kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyazivikela noma uyaqiniseka, uzinzile noma awunasiphelo-angase athonywe yesikhathi sakhe esidlule.
07 Uyini umlingisi wakho ngokuphila?
Njengawo wonke wale mibuzo, kungakanani ulwazi oludingayo kuxhomeke kwezinye izingxenye esakhiweni , kodwa uzodinga umqondo wokuthi umlingisi wakho wenza kanjani imali. Umdansa uzokubuka izwe ngokuhluke kakhulu kumuntu we-akhawunti, isibonelo, nesisebenzi sokwakha uyosebenzisa ulimi oluhluke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi. Indlela abazizwa ngayo ngezindaba eziningi, kusukela emalini kuya emndenini, kuzoba yingxenye ethile kuxhomeke ekukhethweni kwabo emsebenzini .
08 Umlingisi wakho ubhekana kanjani nokuphikisana nokushintsha?
Izinganekwane zihilela ezinye zezingxabano nezinguquko. Ziyingxenye yalokho okwenza indaba ibe indaba. Ingabe uhlamvu lwakho aluhambisani noma lusebenza? Uma othile ehlangana naye, ingabe uyashintsha isihloko, inhloko ye-minibar, i-stalk ivaliwe, noma yenza ukuvivinya okujulile? Uma othile emthuka, ingabe kungenzeka ukuthi uyayithatha, ivele ne-retort, noma ivuleleke ukuthola omunye umuntu akhulume naye?
09 Ubani obunye bokuphila komlingisi wakho?
Ubudlelwano nokuthi abantu baxhumana kanjani nabanye kubonisa uhlamvu. Banezizathu zokuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano, ehlukumeza ukuvezwa, inikeza enye indlela yokunikeza ulwazi oludingekile. Cabanga ukuthi ubani ozokusiza kakhulu ukuthi udlulisele lolu lwazi nokuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zabantu ezizobe zikhona ezweni lomlingiswa wakho kuqala.
10 Uyini umgomo womuntu wakho noma isisusa kule ndaba noma ngesimo?
Ezincwadini ezinde noma amanoveli , kuzodingeka ubuze lo mbuzo ngokuphindaphindiwe. Izenzo eziningi zomlingiswa wakho zizovela emgcekeni wezinto azama ukufeza nobuntu bakhe, obhekene nakho konke okwenziwe ekuphenduleni imibuzo ngaye. Uma ungabaza ukuthi umlingiswa wakho kufanele aziphathe kanjani, zibuze ukuthi umlingisi wakho ufuna kuphi futhi ucabange ngezimpendulo ozinikeze kuyo yonke imibuzo.