Nakhu ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani ukungamzwa unecala
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ukujwayela umama wecala kungakuyeka ukukhubazeka. Sebenzisa enye yalezi zingcebiso eziyisishiyagalombili zokukhulula umama wecala bese uqhubeka nokuphila kwakho!
Nquma Uma Ukwenziwe Okungalungile
Iphutha lakho lingalethwa ngoba wenze isinqumo esibi. Ingabe ingane yakho yayidinga wena kodwa ube nomsebenzi obalulekile webhizinisi kuqala, ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokubapha umzuzu wamaminithi amahlanu wawaphuthuma ngaphandle komnyango? Khona-ke, yebo, unecala lokubeka umsebenzi ngaphambi kwengane yakho, kodwa kuyisimo sakho uma lokho okwenzile kwakungalungile. Yayiyini into ebaluleke kakhulu kulowo mzuzu? Ingabe ucingo lwebhizinisi olubalulekile noma lungabe ludinga imizuzu embalwa?
Ukusiza ukukhulula umama wecala ucabange nge-airplane ephuthumayo i-oxygen mask. Sonke senza izingane zethu zibe yizinto eziphambili kodwa kuzoba nezikhathi lapho udinga ukubeka wena noma umsebenzi wakho kuqala. Futhi kulungile.
Dala i-Anti-Mommy Guilt Credo
Nansi indlela esheshayo yokukhulula umama wecala ngoba kwadingeka ushiye ingane yakho ukuya emsebenzini. Zama ukudala i-anti-mommy credo credo esekelwe ukuthi kungani usebenza. Qala ukucubungula ngokuphendula le mibuzo:
- Yini ekushukumisela ukuthi uphume embhedeni uphinde uhambe ehhovisi nsuku zonke?
- Iyini umsebenzi wakho omkhulu ofeziwe futhi kungani umhlaba kufanele wazi ngabo?
- Yiziphi izindinganiso zakho zobuchwepheshe?
- Kungani ukhethe ukuba umama osebenzayo?
Okulandelayo, thatha izimpendulo zale mibuzo bese wenza isitatimende, noma u-credo, ukuthi ungazitshela lapho umama wecala eqala.
Le-credo izokunika amandla okudlulisa icala bese uqinisekisa ukuthi wenza isinqumo esifanele . Uma ubhekene nokubhala ibhulogi mhlawumbe kukhona isibonakaliso sokuxwayisa ukuthi ulahlekelwe. Buyela emuva kusihloko sokuqala sosizo.
Thola Abanye Isikhala Esivela Kubantu Abangenza Ube Necala
Ingabe othile uthi okuthile okwenza uzizwe unecala? Beka umngcele wakho othi uzogcina uhambo lwakho kulowo muntu noma ngeke ulethe noma yikuphi okubangela ukuthi unecala. Izihlobo zingaba nzima. Uma umamazala wakho ebeka amazwana nge-snide mayelana nokusebenza kwakho, thola isizathu sokushiya ekamelweni. Lokhu kungcono kunokugwaza imfoloko ngesandla sakhe.
Cabanga Ngombono Womunye Omunye
Uma uhlangana ubuso nobuso ngamazwana omelene nomsebenzi, zama ukukhumbula ukuthi bakhuluma ngokubheka kwabo okusekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Zibuze ukuthi "Ukuphi ukuphawula kwabo kuvelaphi? Yini eyenzeka empilweni yabo ezobangela ukuba bakholelwe ukuthi bakulungile?"
Kufanele ubone ukuphawula ngokusho kokukhetha okwenzele umndeni wabo. Ingabe lo wesifazane owenza la mazwana wabeka umsebenzi wakhe wokubamba ekhaya? Ingabe wayengekho ukusebenza noma enzonda ukuthembela kumyeni wakhe ngemali?
Khona-ke mhlawumbe kufanele akholelwe umbono wakhe kulungile ngakho angaphila ne-tradeoffs ayamukelayo.
Thatha usuku lomuntu siqu bese uchitha isikhathi nengane yakho
Ukuze uthole umama onecala, zinike isikhathi sokuphumula futhi uthathe usuku lokuchitha nengane yakho. Uzophinde uxhume kabusha ngezingoma zakho zansuku zonke, ukudla, nobuntu. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokwenza usuku lwakho lube olukhethekile.
Uma ingane yakho encane, ungazibandakanya emisebenzini engafanele kwenye indawo ngesonto njengokubanika amabhati amaningi futhi ukuhlola umzimba wayo omncane nganoma yikuphi ukuhlukumeza noma ukuhlola lapho kukhona khona amakhono amakhono omoto. Uma ingane yakho inkulu, mabeke ukhethe i-ajenda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyindawo yokudayisa, ukuhamba ngebhayisikili, noma ukudla kwasemini kanye ne-movie kanye nawe. Ngesikhathi sakho sokuphumula kuthatha isikhathi sokucabanga ngempilo yakho njengomama osebenzayo (ingabe udale i-anti-mama yakho i-credo yetyala?).
Thatha iphephandaba lakho bese uqala ukubhala, mama!
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuthatha usuku lweholide, khetha ingane yakho ekuseni amahora ambalwa okudlala. Noma, memezela usuku olulodwa lwezimpelasonto mahhala futhi ulisebenzise nje ngokuba ngumama. Uma isimiso sakho sinzima ngempela, ngesikhathi esizayo lapho uhlala khona nezingane ezigulayo, zama ukuphatha njengesikhashana sokubambisana, esikhundleni somdlalo wethelevishini ne-Jell-o.
Khumbuze Wena Sonke Sinezinselele Zethu
Uma uzwa ukungqubuzana komsebenzi-womndeni, kulula ukucabanga impilo ozoba nayo njengomama wokuhlala ekhaya. Ucabanga ukudansa emasimini ama-dandelions nezingane zakho, ukulandelela zonke izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu futhi ukwakhiwa kwe-IQ kwizinga lobuhlakani ngokusebenzisa imisebenzi enconywe ukuthuthukiswa kwentsha yase-PhD.
Okuyiqiniso ukuthi abazali abahlala ekhaya bangaba nokucindezeleka okuningi njengabazali abasebenzayo, uma kungenjalo, kuye ngokuthi ubudala, ubumnene, kanye nenani lezingane.Ngako-ke qhubeka phambili futhi ujabulise umjikelezo wakho we-solo ukusebenza noma leyo indebe ethule ikhofi edeskini yakho. Uma ngabe usesikhathini esigcwele ekhaya, ungase ube nenhlanhla yokugeza ngasese.
Yamukela ukuthi Ungase Ulahlekelwe Izinto
Kuyinto elula ye-physics ukuthi umama osebenzayo ngeke ashumayele umzuzu ngamunye ngosuku olulodwa lwezingane zakhe. Kuhle ukudabuka ngokulahlekelwa isikhathi esiphundu futhi kumnandi. Uma uzivumela ukulila izinto oziyekayo ngokusebenza, kungase kube lula kuwe ukuthi ujabulele izinto ozitholayo. Akusizi ukusetshenziswa sengathi uzenzele i-tradeoffs.
Ukuze sikusize ukunqoba lolu hlobo lomama wecala, cela umhlinzeki wakho wezinsuku uma bengasebenzisa uhlelo lokusebenza ukugcina uxhumekile emini. Kuzokusiza ukuba uzuze lezo zikhathi ezinecala uma ubona isithombe noma ividiyo yezingane zakho ezizijabulisa esikoleni.
Yazi ukuthi Lokhu Ngeke Kuhlale Phakade
Ukuphila kushintsha ngokushesha. Ukukhetha okwenzile ngomsebenzi kungase kubonakale sengathi kuzohlala kuze kube phakade kodwa ngeke. Izingane zakho zizoshintsha! Bangase bayeke ama-goodbyes abamba izinyembezi futhi esikhundleni sokugijima ngaphandle kokunikeza umcabango wesibili. Uzoyeka ukuzizwa ukhohlwa ngoba uzoqala ukulala ubusuku obugcwele eminyakeni embalwa. Ngakho ekugcineni ungakhumbula izithembiso eziningi ozenzele izingane zakho.
Uma uzizwa unamathele ukhumbuze ukuthi izinto ngeke zihlale phakade. Ngaphambi kokuba wazi ukuthi ingane yakho izoba sesikoleni samabanga aphansi, ukwenza abangane angahlala phakade. Ungathola uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi ngamahora aguquguqukayo ukuze ukwazi ukuhlala ekhaya ngaphezulu. Ubani owazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani kusasa! Hlala nethemba ukuthi izinto zizoshintsha futhi ngethemba lokuthi zizophuthuma.
Ihlelwe ngu-Elizabeth McGrory.