Amathiphu Wokulinganisa Ukuphila Nezingane Ezizidingo Ezikhethekile
Kusukela ekolishi lokuphothula, ngisebenze ezinkhundleni eziningana ezigcwalisayo nezinselele eziye zangivumela ukuba ngisebenzise ukuqeqeshwa namakhono ami futhi kwangishiya sengathi ngenza umnikelo oyingqayizivele. Ukusebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya nokuxhumana noontanga yilokho engqondweni yami futhi engikudingayo ukuze ngiphile impilo elinganiselayo.
Ngesikhathi indodakazi yami itholwe ukuthi ine- autism , imibono yami yokugcwalisa kanye nenselele ishintshwe ngokuphelele.
Uma umntanami eya emithonjeni yokwelapha, ingabe ngizoqonda ngokuphelele ukuthi ngiphatha kanjani ukwelashwa ekhaya? Uma ngaya emitholampilo naye, lokho kungasho ukuthi kufanele ngiyeke umsebenzi wami futhi uma ngenza, ngingakwazi yini ukukhokhela ukwelapha?
Iningi lezingane ezinesidingo esikhethekile zinezimpilo zomuntu wonke, zidinga abazali ukuba babe ochwepheshe esimweni esifaka hlangana nendlela yokusingatha ubunzima bezingane kanye nokuziphatha kwabo. Ukwelashwa okunconyelwe izingane eziningi ezine-autism kuqala ngamahora angu-25 ngeviki, kungakhulumi ngomsebenzi, ngokomzimba nangokwenkulumo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abazali abathola ukudla kuphazamisa izingane zabo, zidinga ukufunda izindlela zokupheka ezikhethekile, ukuthenga ukudla okungenzeka bangazijwayele - bonke ngenkathi bezama ukusebenza umsebenzi wabo futhi bahambele ezinye izingane zabo.
Izingane eziningi ezinesidingo esikhethekile nazo zinamathuba amaningi okuqashwa kwabadokotela kanye nokuhlala esibhedlela kanye nezidingo zokugcinwa ekhaya ezikoleni kaningi kunokuvame ukuthuthukisa izingane.
Abazali Bezidingo Ezikhethekile Izingane Zigxilile Ingcindezi
Ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2009 lwathola ukuthi omama abasha kanye nabantu abadala abane-autism bahlangabezana nokucindezeleka okufana nokucindezeleka okwenziwa amasosha empi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, laba mama babhekana nokukhathala njalo nokuphazamiseka emsebenzini futhi basebenzisa isikhathi sokunakekelwa isikhathi esiningi kunamama alabo abangenakho ukukhubazeka.
Lokhu ukucindezeleka okungapheli kugcizelela ukuncishiswa okulinganiselwe kokuphila kwabo kweminyaka engu-9 kuya kweyishumi nambili, kushiya amanye omama agxilile ukuthi ngubani ozokunakekela izidingo zabo ezikhethekile ezinganeni lapho sezihambile.
Ucwaningo lubonise ukuthi ingane yakho i-ADHD, lokhu kubangela izinkinga ezikhulayo ngomndeni nasemisebenzini yomshado, ukuphazanyiswa ubuhlobo bomzali nabantwana, ukunciphisa ukusebenza komzali nokunciphisa ukucindezeleka.
Ukulinganisa Ukuphila Nezingane Ezizidingo Ezikhethekile
- Ukusekelwa komndeni / umngani . Nginenhlanhla ukuthola usizo lomndeni wami osiza ukunakekela indodakazi yami ngenkathi ngisebenza futhi uma ngidinga isikhathi nabangane. Izikhathi eziningi, umzali oyedwa kufanele alahle umsebenzi ukuze anakekele izidingo zabo ezikhethekile, okusho ukuthi umlingani osebenzayo uvame ukusebenza amahora amaningi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akalahlekelwa umsebenzi. Lokhu kungaqhubeka nokucindezela ubuhlobo. Uma ungekho ohlelweni lukahulumeni futhi ungenayo inethiwekhi yomndeni / umngane etholakalayo kuwe, sicela uhlole isikhungo sendawo esendaweni yakho ukuze ubone ukuthi ufanelekile yini ukukhokhela (izimali ezinikezwe ukusiza abazali ekukhokheni abahlinzeki) kanye nezincomo ezithembekile .
- Hlola indlela yakho yokusebenza . Ngashintsha izindlela zomsebenzi futhi manje ngisemtholampilo wasekhaya, isazi se-CEASE esiqinisekisiwe kanye nesondlo sokudla. Zonke lezi zazisiza indodakazi yami, ngakho ngathatha izifundo zokusiza abanye abazali befuna izixazululo. Isimiso sami sinemibandela yokubhekana nabazali abanezingane ezidinga izidingo ezikhethekile ukuze sikwazi ukuhlangana nomuntu noma i-Skype nganoma yiluphi usuku lwesonto. Leli khasi ligcina futhi indodakazi yami phambi nangaphakathi. Lokho engikwenzayo kusiza wonke umuntu, kuhlanganise naye.
Khuluma nemithombo yabantu ukuze ubone ukuthi kunezinzuzo noma izinhlelo ezikhethekile ezinikezayo ukusiza abazali bezingane abanezidingo ezikhethekile.
- Xoxa ngezinketho zomsebenzi nomqashi wakho . Kungenzeka yini ukusebenza amanye amahora akho ngenkathi ingane yakho iseseshini yokwelapha? Ingabe amahora akho angashintsha ukuze aqale ekuqaleni kosuku ukuze omunye wakho obalulekile noma ilungu lomndeni lingamnakekela ingane yakho ngenkathi uqala umsebenzi? Ungakwazi yini ukuthatha izingqungquthela zenkomfa zasebusuku abanye abesaba njengengxenye yamahora akho omsebenzi? Hlola ukuthi yiziphi izinto zomsebenzi eziguquguqukayo futhi ucabange iziphakamiso kumqashi wakho.
- Imihlangano Yezenhlalakahle . Lokhu kungaba nzima ngezidingo ezikhethekile izingane, kodwa kungakusiza uthole ukwesekwa nokududuzwa. Kukhona amaqembu ahlangana ngeviki noma ngenyanga futhi uma ungawutholi, kulula ukuqala. Lokhu kungakusiza ukuthola ukuthi kunezinye izindlela zokwelashwa, abahlinzeki abangcono futhi mhlawumbe bathembele kwabanye abazali abangakwazi ukuhweba izikhathi zokuhlala zentsana ezinganeni zabo.
Okubalulekile ukucela usizo. Njengabadinga abazali abakhethekile, siba izazi ezithembele kithi ngokwethu ukusiza izingane zethu, kodwa, ukuthola ukuthi yini okudingayo ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi iphumelele yilokho okuphelela ekusebenzeni amandla nasemsebenzini.
Izinsiza:
- http://www.abilitypath.org/love-laugh--live/stress-relationships/coping/articles/mothers-of-children-with-special-needs-and-combat-soldiers.html
- http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201310/pity-the-parents-special-needs-children-part-one
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Mayelana ne-Sima Ash - i-Sima Ash of Healing 4 Umphefumulo uyisifo sekhaya esitholakala emtholampilo / i-homeopath, i-GAPS Certified Practitioner kanye nesondlo sokudla okunomsoco oqinisekisayo osebenzisa indlela eyingqayizivele ephayona yiTinus Smits, MD ebizwa ngokuthi i-CEASE therapy. Uhileleke ekuphulukisweni okuhambisanayo ngemuva kokubona ukuthuthukiswa okukhulu kwendodakazi yakhe eyatholakala ukuthi une-autism eneminyaka emithathu. Ukuze uthole olunye ulwazi, sicela uvakashele ku-www.healing4soul.com. Ungayilandela i-Sima ku-Facebook ku- 'Cease Therapy California' noma uyifone ngo-949-916-9990.