"Abaningi bethu banamathele kulokho esingenakho, abakwazi ukukwenza, noma abasoze babe nakho. Sisebenzisa amandla amaningi kakhulu uma singasebenzisa amandla afanayo - uma kungenjalo - okwenzayo , noma okungenani uzama ukwenza, ezinye zezinto esizifunayo ngempela. " Terry McMillan
Encwadini ethandwayo nguTerry McMillan, "U-Stella Got Her Groove Emuva Kanjani," umlingisi oyinhloko unzima kakhulu ukuhlala ngesikhathi futhi ingqondo yakhe ihlale igijimela ezintweni ezidingekayo, kufanele iyenze noma ifuna ukuba ukwenza.
Ukhalela ukuthi "ukhathele ukugijima, ukhathele ukugxuma." Enye incazelo ye-movie ibeka ngokufingqa isakhiwo esiyinhloko futhi ichaza "i-groove" ngalendlela:
UStella uthatha "isisombululo sokuphila kwakhe ukuze azame ukuthola ukulinganisela phakathi kwesifiso sakhe sokuthandana nobudlelwane, kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yokuphatha umama neyenkampani." UVenise Wagner, iSan Francisco Examiner
Ukulahlekelwa "i-groove" yakho ngokuvamile kubhekisela ekulahlekelweni kokugxila kwakho, ukushayela, isifiso, noma ikhono lokuthola izinto ezenza ujabule noma umuzwa wenjongo ewusizo ekuphileni. Izibonelo zifaka:
- Usenesithakazelo kumlingani wakho, kodwa iziphazamiso zokuphila zikugcina ungenzi isikhathi sabo;
- Namanje ujabulela izinto zokuzilibazisa kodwa uzicindezele ezinye izinto;
- Ukugxila kwakho noma "ukuphoqeleka" kubonakala sengathi kuye kwanciphisa futhi uphishekela izinto ezikujabulisayo kancane kancane.
Ngamafuphi, ukubuyisa emuva kwakho kusho ukubeka injabulo emuva ekuphileni okuqhutshwa ngumsebenzi.
Abanye bangase bathi ukubuyela emuva kwakho kuyindlela ephindaphindiwe yokubhekisela ku-" balance-life balance ".
Indlela Yokuqaphela Uma Ucindezelekile, Noma Uma Ulahlekelwe I-Groove Yakho
Ukuhluka okubalulekile phakathi kokumane ulahlekelwe umgodla wakho nokuhlupheka ngenxa yokucindezeleka yizinga lezimpawu zakho. Uma izimpawu zakho zikuvimbela ukwenza izinto ozifunayo empilweni noma ukulahlekelwa isifiso, noma ikhono lokuzwa injabulo noma injabulo, ungase ube nokucindezeleka.
Isibonelo, uma ungakwazi ukuphuma embhedeni ekuseni ngoba usuke ukhathele noma ukhungathekile impilo, kungaba isibonakaliso sokucindezeleka.
Ukuzwa sengathi awukhiphi konke okufunayo kungaba umcabango ocindezelayo; ungase ukhungatheke ukuthi awekho amahora okwanele ngosuku, noma uzizwa ubophezele emisebenzini nasezibopho kuqala, kodwa akusho ukuthi uhlushwa ukucindezeleka.
Uma ulahlekelwe ukugxila, noma impilo yakho ihlanganiswe kakhulu nezinto zokugaya nsuku zonke ongabonakali ukubamba izinto, ungadinga nje uhlelo olusha lokuhlelwa, uhlelo lokusekela okungcono, noma ngisho nomqeqeshi wokuphila. Nakuba impilo engalawuleki ingase ibe uphawu lokucindezeleka, kungase kube uphawu lokuthi impilo yakho isuke ihlelekile futhi ingalungile.
Ukucindezeleka ngokuvamile kuzwa kunzima futhi kuhlotshaniswa "Angikwazi ..." futhi kungaholela emizweni ejulile emibi kanye nemizwa yecala noma yokungabi namandla. Ukucindezeleka kungabangela izenzakalo zangaphandle (njengokuguqulwa noma ukulahleka), ukugula, noma ukungalingani kwe-hormone, kodwa kungamandla ngaphakathi kwenhliziyo nengqondo yakho okukuvimbela ukwenza noma ukujabulela izinto ekuphileni.
Ukulahlekelwa umgogodla wakho kufinyelele emigqeni yokufuna ukwenza okuthile, kodwa ulahlekelwa isisusa, isikhathi, noma ukugxila.
Iziphazamiso, amabutho kanye nezingcindezi zokuphila yizimbangi ezinkulu zokungafuni ukubeka izidingo zakho kuqala - awuzange ulahlekelwe isifiso sakho sokwenza izinto ezithile , uzizwa uphoqelelwe ukwenza ezinye izinto esikhundleni salokho.