I-Magic Word Yokuthengisa
Esinye salezi "izimfihlo" igama elivamile elisetshenzisiwe elilodwa lamagama akhuthazayo kakhulu ngolimi lwesiNgisi.
Ngoba
Igama elithi "ngoba" liye laboniswa ezifundweni eziningi ukuze libe namandla kakhulu. Kulabo abathengisayo abaqaphela ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ikhono labo lokukhohlisa kusemisebenzini yabo, ngezela ngokuhlakanipha igama elithi "ngoba" engxoxweni yabo yokukhuluma kungenzeka empeleni benze umehluko omkhulu.
Inhloso yalesi sihloko akufanele ihlolisise i-psychology ngemuva kweli gama elikholisayo kepha esikhundleni sokunikeza iziphakamiso ezimbalwa ezisheshayo mayelana nendlela yokusebenzisa igama emisebenzini yakho yokudayiswa nsuku zonke.
Ukushaya kwe-Cold
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyabanda ucingo noma ubuso nobuso, kufanele ube nomgomo wocingo ngalinye. Kodwa uma unomgomo wocingo olubandayo, kwenzeka into ehlekisayo. Omunye ehhovisi owubizayo unomsebenzi wokuvimbela ukuthi ungafinyeleli umgomo wakho.
Bavame ukubizwa ngokuthi "abalindisango" futhi bakhokhelwa, kubonakala sengathi bakhulisa abashayeli noma izivakashi.
Ngakho-ke lapho uchwepheshe wezokuthengisa eyeka noma ebiza izingcingo, ecela ukukhuluma nomenzi wesinqumo, umlindisango uyangena!
Uma ukubiza okubandayo kubhekana nje kungashintsha indlela esetshenzisiwe bese kufaka igama elithi "ngoba," izinga lokuphumelela lokubiza ngokubandayo liyokhula kakhulu. Nasi isibonelo sendlela yokuxhumeka ku- "ngoba:"
"Sawubona, igama lami nguThomas Phelps. Ngiyacela ukuthola ukuthi ubani owenza izinqumo mayelana nesistimu yakho yefoni ngoba nginolunye ulwazi engingathanda ukwabelana nabo."
Ukufakwa okulula kwegama elithi "ngoba" kuqinisekisa isizathu socingo lwakho futhi kuvumela umgcini wesango ukuba azi ukuthi unesizathu esizwakalayo sokubiza. Kuyathakazelisa ukuphawula ukuthi ucwaningo lubonise ukuthi isizathu esinikeziwe esilandelayo "ngoba" asidingi ngisho nokwenza umqondo omkhulu. Ukuzwa nje igama elithi "ngoba" livame ukufeza umgomo wakho.
Ukuqokwa
Ochwepheshe bangamatasa. Abantu abaningi ozoba noma ozokwenzayo benza imisebenzi engaphezu kweyodwa futhi banesikhathi esincane kakhulu sokuhlangana nabo bonke abaqeqeshiwe abadayisayo abababiza. Ngakho ukuthola i-aphoyintimenti ngokuvamile kuyisinyathelo esinzima kakhulu kumjikelezo wokuthengisa.
Umcabango oyinhloko engqondweni yomuntu uma ecelwa ukuba uhlele umhlangano "kungani kufanele?" Uma wena, ochwepheshe bezentengiselwano, ungeke unikeze isizathu esinamandla sokuthi umuntu ahlangane nawe, ngeke. Uma unenkinga yokuqhubeka nokuthola amathuba okuvuma ukuhlangana nawe, zama ukufaka "ngoba" kuzicelo zakho. Nasi isibonelo:
UNkk Prospect, ngiyaqonda futhi ngiyazisa ukuthi unomatasa kangakanani futhi angizange ngikucele umhlangano nawe ngaphandle kokuthi ngizizwe ngicabanga ngomkhiqizo wami nokuthi kungase kube kanjani okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe nenkampani yakho. Ngingathanda ukusetha umhlangano wamaminithi angu-30 nawe ngoba ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi uzoba nesithakazelo ekutholeni okuningi mayelana nomkhiqizo wami.
Ukuvala ukudayiswa
Ukuvala ukudayiswa kwehlelwa ukuthi wenze kahle kangakanani kwisinyathelo ngasinye somjikelezo wokuthengisa, ngakho ungalindeli ukuthi ungaqala ukusebenzisa igama lomlingo lapho uvala futhi ukwazi ukusika emsebenzini odingekayo kwezinye izinyathelo. Khumbula, ayikho imfihlo yokuthengisa kodwa kunalokho, uchungechunge lwezimfihlo ezidinga ukuhlanganiswa ndawonye.
Uma wenze kahle ngokuhlola, ukufaneleka, ukwakha ubudlelwane, ukuklama isisombululo futhi ukulungele ukuvala ukudayiswa, zama ukungeza "ngoba" emgqeni wakho wenkulumo. Futhi, ungalindeli ukuthi ukusebenzisa "ngoba" kuzokwenzela noma kuthathe indawo yokusebenza kanzima noma umzamo okhuthele kulo lonke umjikelezo wokuthengisa, kodwa ungase uqaphele ukuthi ukuvala kwakho kuhamba kahle futhi ukukhushulwa kwakho kwephesenti kuyanda.