Ngahlangana nomphathi wezinsizakalo eziphezulu, owamchaza njengomqeqeshi osemusha oqhamukayo owayesebenza kahle njengomphathi wangaphambili. Wamangala ngomsindo omncane kakhulu ovela eqenjini lakhe elisha futhi wazibuza ngokucacile ukuthi wayenze iphutha.
" Wenze umsebenzi omuhle eqenjini lakhe lokugcina, kodwa lolu uhlobo oluthile lweqembu. Ziyizilwane ezidumile ezidinga umholi osekelayo, hhayi umphathi we-pushy. Kuzo zonke imibiko, usebenza njengomphathi we-pushy. "
Lokho engangikutholile ekuboneni kwami nasekuxoxweni kwami kwakuyizinombolo eziningi zokungcola okukhulunywe ngumuntu ongazange afunde kahle izilaleli zakhe futhi azivumelanise nendlela yakhe. Ngenhlanhla, wayeyiklayenti elihle lokuqeqesha futhi isikhathi esiningi futhi eqiniswa kakhulu emalungwini akhe, wathatha izingxoxo ezinkulu zokuxhumana. Nazi ezinye izifundo esingasifunda kuzo zonke lezi zinto ezijwayelekile.
Izindlela Ezinhle Zokuxhumana Zokusebenzisa Neqembu Lakho Elisha:
1. Qala ngokuzibuza lo mbuzo: "Ekupheleni kwesikhathi sami esiholayo leli qembu, yini ithimba lami elizokhuluma ukuthi ngiyenzile?" Lo mbuzo onamandla futhi ovusa amadlingozi unzima ukuba ucabange ngokujulile ngendima yakho nangomthelela oyithandayo ukuba nalo kuleli qembu.
Iseluleko sami: bhala phansi futhi wabelane ngemicabango yakho neqembu lakho elisha. Bacele ukuthi bakubambelele ekuchazeni kwakho. Ukuzimisela kwakho ukuchaza izinhloso zakho nokuzibophezela esidlangalaleni kuzothola inhlonipho yamalungu eqembu lakho. Yiqiniso, zilungele ukuphila ngokuzinikela kwakho.
2. Cela ukufaka umuntu oyedwa ngesikhathi. Ngenkathi ungase ungakwazi ukugwema ukwethula ithimba lakho elisha esimisweni seqembu, melane nesifiso sokuhlanganyela ubunikazi bakho bobuholi kulokhu kulungiselelwa.
Esikhundleni salokho, masinya ukusetha izingxoxo ezodwa kanye nelungu ngalinye leqembu. Sebenzisa lezi zikhathi zokuqala njengethuba lokubuza imibuzo. Zama: Yini Esebenzayo? Yini Akunjalo? Yini oyidingayo ukuba ngiyenze ukuze ngisize? Thatha amanothi amakhulu, futhi khumbula ukuthi ungumnikazi wokulandelwa kusuka kulezi zifundo.
3. Hlanganisa amandla emibuto . Imibuzo ngumngani wakho omkhulu uma kuziwa ekutholeni ukwethembeka ngethimba lakho elisha. Uma ubuza othile ngemibono yabo, ubonisa ukuthi uyakwazisa isipiliyoni sabo nemibono, ubonisa indlela enamandla yokuhlonipha. Yiqiniso, qaphela ukuthi ungaceli imibono bese uyinaki ukufaka, noma imizwa emihle iyoshintsha ngokushesha.
4. Funda ngomlando weqembu kanye namasiko. Noma yiliphi iqembu eliye lahlangana ndawonye isikhathi eside liye laqala isiko elihlukile esekelwe kumlando owabelwana ngawo. Lalela futhi ufunde futhi ubuze mayelana nempumelelo yangaphambili yeqembu nemizamo yobuqhawe. Zama ukuthola ukuthi wonke umuntu usebenza kanjani kanye nokuthi yini abayibheka njengezikhwepha zabo kanye nezikhala zabo.
Ngenkathi ungabona isidingo sokushintsha okukhulu, kufanele uhloniphe umlando. Ngake nginikeza umcwaningi wami ocacile womnyango kunomunye wamalungu aphezulu asekude. Ukubanda kwakhe, "Kumelwe ukuba ubone le ndawo ngaphambi kokuba sigcwalise inhlanzi," wangitshela masinyane ukuthi ngase ngifake inzwa.
Ngaxolisa ngokushesha, kodwa leyo ngxoxo yabeka ithonya elibi ebuhlotsheni bethu phakathi nezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala njengenhloko yomnyango.
5. Thola umngane wombiko. Lo muntu udlala okulingana kwebhizinisi ngalokho okushiwo yi-Navy SEALs ngokuthi "u-swimdy buddy." Ku-SEALs, wonke umuntu ohlelweni lwabo lokuqeqesha lwe-BUDS unikezwa umuntu ohamba yonke indawo, wenza konke futhi unikeze usizo futhi unembuyiselo yakho. Indima yomngane wakho wempendulo yinto engathí sina kakhulu, kodwa isabalulekile. Lesi sici esisekelayo sikunikeza impendulo enganqamuki ekusebenzeni kwakho ukuthi iningi lamalungu wethimba liyesaba ukunikeza. Esikhathini esisodwa sokuqala, isimo sami somngane wami sanikeza ukuthi ngangiqinisa futhi nginobudlova ngesitayela sami sokuxhumana. Lokhu okufakwayo okwesikhashana nokungena kwesikhala kwangigcine ekushayela phezu komfula kule ndima.
I-Bottom-Line Manje:
I "Ngilapha futhi awunayo injabulo!" Umphathi omusha uphekisa wonke umuntu ohilelekile. Iphuzu ngesikhathi lapho uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo eqenjini elisha kuwe ligcwele amathuba amaningana okungaxhunyeki nokushisa. Ungavumeli umlomo wakho ugijime ngaphambi kobuchopho bakho. Kunalokho, buza imibuzo, lalela ngokucophelela futhi uhamba ngezinyawo ngaphambi kokuba wabelane ngemibono yakho.