Ukwakheka kwesakhiwo ngokuhlelekile konke ukufutheka kulezi zinsuku, kepha kuze kube yilapho sesidlulisela okungaphezulu kwezinganekwane zethu ezithandwa isikhathi eside mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba umholi, kuyoba nzima ukudala ngempela ushintsho.
Nazi ezinye eziyisikhombisa zezintambo ezijwayelekile kakhulu mayelana nobuholi obugcina sisinyathele.
Abaholi Bangabantu Abambalwa Kakhulu
Umbono wethu wamanje wobuholi uvame ukuba yinye-ntathu, enomthwalo wemfanelo yobuholi bomuntu oyedwa noma ababili ngaphezulu kwepramramid yamandla nokulawula. Empeleni, ubuholi buningi. Nganoma yiluphi usuku olunikeziwe, ngamunye wethu uhamba ngezinyathelo ezahlukene zobuholi. Sonke sibaholi ngandlela-thile, futhi uma sibamba umbono obanzi ngobuholi , sikwazi ukusebenza ndawonye ngendlela esebenzisa amathalenta ahlukile kuwo wonke umuntu.
Abaholi Bakhethwa Ukuzalwa noma Isihloko
"Ungumholi ozelwe." Sizwa njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa lokho kusho ukuthini ngempela? Sonke singakwazi ukuba ngabaholi abanamandla ngokuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo ngokugcwele kodwa singase senze isandla kunoma yimuphi umzamo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umnikelo wethu uvela phambili noma ngemuva.
Isihloko asenza umuntu abe ngumholi. Sinezibonelo eziningi zabantu abaneziqu ezidumile abangakwazi ukuxhuma, ukugqugquzela, ukunika amandla nokuthuthukisa abanye.
Abaholi Abakhulu Basebenza Bodwa
Lona "imvu yodwa" inkolelo yobuholi. Zigcine uzihlukanise futhi uhlukaniswe "nepakethe." Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngeke ukwazi ukugcina isikhundla se-alpha uphinde uholele ngokuphumelelayo.
Lokhu kungase kube umbono owusizo lapho oqine kakhulu esaphila ngempela ngoba kwakudingeka sizingele ukudla noma sibalekele ezidlaleni kodwa siye sayeka kakhulu lokhu ukusebenza okuyisisekelo kwezinto eziphilayo. Abaholi banamuhla banemakhono ekukhulumeni ubuholi kwabanye. Emiphakathini yomsebenzi yanamuhla ehlangene, i- coaching ibhekwa njengekhono eliyinhloko lobuholi obukhulu.
Abaholi bayasho ukuthi babe nazo zonke izimpendulo
Esikhathini esidlule, sasivame ukuveza abaholi njengabaqhawe, abaxazululi bezinkinga ezicacile abanikeza izixazululo ezinkingeni ezinzima ngesikhathi esisodwa. Lokhu kungukungqubuzana kokusebenzisana nokufakwa futhi kuveza izixazululo ezivame ukungacacile noma eziyingxenye eyodwa ngoba azizange zithole ukuhlolwa okunzima, ukuzinikela nokuphikisana. Ilukuluku kanye nemibuzo enamandla yingxenye ebalulekile yobuholi obuphumelelayo.
Ubuholi Ngemiphumela, hhayi Abantu
Njengoba ijubane lokuphila kwansuku zonke liye laphuthuma, sesivele sithuthukisa izinyathelo futhi imiphumela iqhutshwa. Kubonakala kunengqondo nje ukuhambisa ngezinto zonke "ezithambile" futhi uhambise kanzima imiphumela. Ngeshwa, uma sikhishwe ekuziphatheni kwethu nabanye, lokhu kuqhubeka kungaholela ezenzweni ezingagxiliwe futhi kusishiya sinomuzwa wokuthi unqanyuliwe futhi unesifiso sokuthola incazelo kanye nokulingana.
Ubuholi obunomsoco nokulinganisela ukuhlala nokwenza kuthiwa yiCo-Active Leadership ne- co- (be) futhi - esebenzayo, (enza) esebenzisana ngokuvumelana.
Konke okusemhlabeni wethu wemvelo kusifundisa ukuthi lamandla amabili e- co- futhi asebenzayo- ahlangane ndawonye njalo emzuzwini. Njenge-yin ne-yang yefilosofi yamaThailand yasendulo, i-co-futhi isebenze-isebenza ndawonye ukuze kuveliswe uxhumano, ibhalansi, nokukhubazeka.
Ubuholi buyisimo esiqinile
Sivame ukukholelwa ukuthi uma ubuholi bunikezwe indima noma isihloko, izinto zihlala ngaleyo ndlela kuze kube yilapho umholi oqokiwe ehlehlisa, ehoxiswa noma efa. Eqinisweni, ubuholi busebenza kahle, buqine futhi buphila uma buhamba ngokushesha kulo lonke uhlelo. Ngale ndlela, wonke umuntu ungumholi- ngezinye izikhathi ehola phambili futhi ekhomba indlela, ngezinye izikhathi ehola ngemuva futhi esekela isinyathelo, ngezinye izikhathi ehola eceleni kokubambisana futhi ngezinye izikhathi ehola insimu enamandla, esebenzisa ukuhlakanipha nemvelo ukuze abone ukuthi yikuphi hhayi ukukhulunywa.
Kubuholi obuphumelelayo, ukwehluleka akuyona indlela
Lena inkolelo enjalo ebulalayo. Ukwehluleka yingxenye ebalulekile yokuhlola, ukutholakala okusha, kanye nemisha . Uma singenakukwazi ukukwazi ukwehluleka, kufanele sihlale ngezindlela eziqinisekisiwe kusukela esikhathini esidlule. Izenzo zethu azikho ukulangazela nokuhlola ngoba sesaba ukwehluleka ukuthi asizimisele ukuzama into entsha.
Kuphela ngokuhluleka ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi singakwazi ukufunda, ukuguquka nokukhula. Kubalulekile ukuthi abaholi bamukele futhi bagubhe ukuhluleka njengento ebalulekile yentuthuko nokutholakala.
Nginganikeza incazelo entsha elula yobuholi: Abaholi yibo abaphethe umhlaba wabo. Uma sinekhono lokuphendula ngobuciko kunendlela ephathekayo futhi esebenzayo, lapho siqonda ukuthi singabalobi bezimpilo zethu, empeleni siyizikhulu.
Le ncazelo yobuholi ivumela abantu ukuba bahlanganyele emandleni abo ngabanye futhi kudala ubuholi obunamandla nokubandakanya. Sonke siwusizo, futhi ngamunye wethu ubambe isixazululo sezinselele esibhekene nazo. Kuyinto kuphela lapho sikhipha lezi zindaba zangasesikhathi esidlule mayelana nokuthi ubuholi buyasho ukuthini futhi sifune izincazelo ezintsha ukuthi sizokwazi ukusebenza futhi siphile ndawonye ezweni elisebenzisa okuhle komuntu wonke.
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