Ukuhlukunyezwa ngumsebenzi ongaphansi
Ukuxhashazwa ngumuntu ophansi
"Cishe ngonyaka odlule, umnyango engangisebenza kuwo wasuswa.
Abambalwa bethu ababesele babelwa kwenye inhlangano. Umphathi wami unesihloko esiphakeme kodwa uzithola enesisebenzi esincane kakhulu ukuze asivumele. Ngakho-ke, wazama ukuthola izinhlelo kwezinye iminyango ukuhlasela. Omunye umnyango wamnika isisebenzi esaziwa ngokuthi 'isipho' ngoba iminyango iyajabula ukubanika. Umphathi wami wayazi idumela elibi lomsebenzi ayeyitholayo - ngoba wayethole iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-30 + engakwazi ukuphumelela futhi aye esontweni elifanayo - futhi wayefuna ukuxhumana okuncane nomthengi wakhe omusha. Ngakho-ke, wabeka lesi 'sipho' kimi.
"Ngonyaka owedlule, lo wesifazane ongaphansi kwakhe wenqabe ukwenza noma yimuphi umsebenzi. Ekuqaleni, wathi uyisisulu sabaphathi ababi kakhulu eminyakeni engama-32 engaphambili yomsebenzi wakhe. Kamuva, wathi uyisisulu somphathi wakhe wokugcina Uqede ukuhlasela kwakhe, wangenqaba ukukwenza umsebenzi wakhe, ngoba, wathi, akadingeki, noma angizange ngimcele ngokukhululekile, noma angayiqondi isicelo sami, noma umphathi odlule wenza umsebenzi wakhe kuye, noma 'kwakungaphezu kwekhadi lakhe lokukhokha .' Umphathi wami wamemezela ukuthi yonke ingxabano yayiyinkinga yomuntu siqu phakathi kwabaphansi nami.
" Ngomuntu ohlukumeza kakhulu, ophansi wayezozibamba ngamanoni nama-lotions futhi angimi phezu kwami njengoba ngangihlala ebusweni bami. Wayengikhuluma nami ngenkathi edla nomlomo wakhe evulekile futhi ukudla kuphuma futhi kwenza imisindo enyanyekayo evela kuye okungapheli imisebenzi yomzimba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, wayezithandaza ngokuzwakalayo, akhulume umsakazo wevangeli mayelana nokuphenduka futhi aqhube izingxoxo ezinkulu ngabantu mayelana nabantu abaya esihogweni ngendlela abaphatha ngayo.
Lapho abanye abantu bengivakashele izidingo ezihlobene nomsebenzi, wayezokhipha izicathulo zakhe futhi agijime ngezinyawo ngamafutha ashubile ngenkathi ezama ukujoyina ingxoxo yethu.
"Ekugcineni, ngemva kwengxoxo yokuphikisana lapho ngicacisa khona izenzo eziningi ezinokuhlukumezeka, ezinokuzikhukhumeza, kanye nokungaqondi kahle kwakhe, ngenqaba ukumbuka noma ukukhuluma naye. Ngamtshela ukuba ayeke ukuchitha isikhathi ngokuhlasela kwakhe mina futhi ngenza umsebenzi wakhe. Wangibuza, 'Ubani owahlukumeza kabi kangangokuba wangiphatha kanje?' Ngamtshela ukuthi angizange ngitshale ngami noma umsebenzi wami ukuba ngibe nomuntu onjengaye nokwenza umsebenzi wakhe. Wabuyela emuva ukuba angibalekele futhi ngathi, 'Ungabuzi imicabango yami ejulile futhi unganginaki uma ungakwazi 'wamukele ukuthi uyinkinga.' Abasebenza nabo base bezwe amazwi ami nezwi elithukuthele futhi bavutha ekusebenzisaneni.
"Ngangikhalaza kumphathi wami owadala lesi simo sonke. Ngabhala izenzo eziningi ezingenakuzimela, ukuziphatha okungenzi lutho, nomsebenzi ongamukeleki, kodwa umphathi wami wadlala izikhalo zami njengoba nginobuntu obunzima wangitshela ukuthi ngithenge i-air purifier. ukuthi akekho omunye okhononda ngomunwe ophansi, umsindo nokuphonsa amaphepha kanye nodoti kumakhamikhali angenalutho, nakuba umsebenzi ophethe i-OCD nokwesaba amagciwane asebenza ama-cubicles amabili away.
Uthi kumele siphumelele ukungezwani kwethu phakathi kwethu, kodwa wenqabe ukuphindisela phansi noma ukusekela isicelo sami sokuphishekela amacala asemthethweni ngokumelene naye.
"Ngezinye izikhathi, lo muntu ongaphansi angangicela ukuba ngihlale emhlanganweni wezisebenzi (nakuba engitshela) ukuthi angibike futhi angiklolodele ekhanda lethu leqembu. Uthi ngimhlukumezile ngoba ngangingeke ngikwazi ukukhuluma naye ngaphandle kokukhala Ngithukuthele kakhulu, wangitshela ukuthi wayevame ukuba ngumuntu ohluphekayo, ngaphandle kokungena kwakhe. Ngangizivikela ngentshiseko, ngaqaphela ukwehluleka kwakhe okuningi ukwenza futhi ngifuna ukuba adluliselwe ngaphasi kwami. Umsebenzi wami wasebenza ngokuzithandela ukuphatha ongaphansi kwakhe ngoba wasebenza naye ngaphambili (futhi waxwayisa kakhulu umphathi wethu ukuba angamtholi) futhi wayazi ukuthi ukuhlonishwa kwakhe kwakufanelekile.
Eqinisweni, wayeqonda ukuthi kungani umphathi ongaphansi wayevame ukunikezwa ngamabhubhu ahlukanisiwe kude nanoma yikuphi ukwahlukana ayewunikeziwe.
"Phakathi nonyaka, ngiye ngahlupheka ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama. Ngathola amakhilogremu angama-40 ekucindezelekeni kokuhlala phansi nokuhlambalaza futhi ngisebenze ngesifo sokubulala esivikelwe yizinkonzo zomphakathi . Ngakhala emsebenzini, ngakhala umphathi (ohleka kimi futhi ungitshele ukuthi inzuzo yami isisindo sami), futhi ngichitha ubusuku obukhulu ngoba ngicindezelekile ukuba ngisebenze isikhathi eside ukuze ngibuyele emsebenzini ongaphansi ngoba umphathi wami ungenza ngiziphendule.
"Lowo ongaphansi kwakhe uyaqhubeka esongela ukungiphakamisa amacala futhi angimangalele ngokuthi angithandi kakhulu (nakuba ngiye ngasebenza kahle) lapho ngimbuza imibuzo ebucayi ngemikhiqizo yakhe ebhaliwe. Uma ngimemezela lokhu kuhlaselwa kumphathi wami, umphathi uzosongela ukumisa okwesikhashana nami engaphansi kwami nami.
"Ngakho-ke, ngifundise ophansi ukuba angixoxe nge-e-mail ukuze azivikele ekuhlukumezweni angibeka ngakho futhi nginezincwadi zokuhlukunyezwa kwakhe. Ngisebenzisa lezi ma-imeyili uma kamuva uphika ukusho ukuthi yikuphi okungekho emthethweni ukuthi uzimisele ukukwenza umsebenzi wakhe. Ngoba ngitshele ukuthi kufanele angithumelele mina kuphela, uyangicasula ukuba angithukuthele futhi angasho muntu, "Bonke abantu bezwa ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani kimi? "
"Ngalolu nyaka, uye wafakazela kuphela umphathi wami ukuthi uzothatha umhlalaphansi 'nanoma yiliphi usuku manje.' Wenza lesi simangalo ngemuva kokulwa kwakhe okubuhlungu kakhulu ngemva kokuba ngibhale ukweba kwakhe isikhathi noma ukungahambisani naye noma ukungasebenzi. Izithembiso zakhe zamanga zithenga ngokuzenzekelayo izinyanga ezintathu zokuphindaphinda, ngoba umphathi wami ungitshela ukuthi uzoshiya nanoma yiluphi usuku manje. Akakaze athumele amaphepha akhe okuthatha umhlalaphansi. Ngakho-ke, ngiyaqhubeka ngifisa ukufisa ukuba aphele noma ahambe. "