Ungazivumeli Ukuba Ube Umgomo Olula Wobudlova
Ucabanga ukuthi usebenza nomhlukumezi ? Ingabe uzizwa uvalo njalo, ukwesaba ukusebenza eduze nomuntu osebenza naye, noma uhlekisiwe, uhlambalaze futhi ubeke phansi? Ingabe osebenza naye ukhuluma ngawe emihlanganweni , akugxeka, noma weba isikweletu ngomsebenzi wakho? Uma uphendula u-yebo kule mibuzo, amathuba ukuthi ungomunye wezigidi ezingama-54 zaseMelika ezihlaselwe ngumhlukumezi emsebenzini.
Uyazi ukuthi usebenza nomuntu ohlukumezayo lapho umhlukumezi ethatha amaphutha akho futhi njalo uyawakhuphula.
Noma okubi nakakhulu, lo muntu ohlukumezayo uhleka ngawe, uxoxela osebenza nabo amanga, futhi aze aqede futhi ahlasele umsebenzi wakho. Uma wesaba ukuya emsebenzini, ungase ube nomsebenzi ohlukumezayo noma umphathi .
Uma umqashi wakho engakusizi, futhi isifundo samanje sithi kaningi ngeke, ngisho noma kungenxa yokuthi bengazi ukuthi benzeni noma kunjalo, lezi yizenzo okufanele zithathwe ukuze zinqobe u-bully.
Awunayo Yodwa: Ukuxhashazwa Kuhlala Ezweni Eziningi Zokusebenza
Esikhathini sazo sika-2017 sikazwelonke, ukuxhashazwa kwendawo emsebenzini "kuchazwe njengokuphathwa kabi kwesisebenzi ngumuntu oyedwa noma ngaphezulu; ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo okungukuthi: ukusongela, ukuhlazisa, noma ukusabisa, ukuhlukunyezwa emsebenzini, noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi." I-Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute (WBTI), ithola ukuthi:
- Amaphesenti angu-50 aseMelika akakaze ahlangabezane noma abone ukuhlukunyezwa, kodwa amaphesenti angu-19 aseMelika ahlukunyezwa, amanye amaphesenti angu-19 afakaza ukuxhaphaza emsebenzini.
- Amaphesenti angu-61 aseMelika ayazi ukuziphatha okuhlukumeza okwenzeka endaweni yokusebenzela.
- Izigidi ezingama-60 zaseMelika zithinteka ukuxhaphazwa komsebenzi.
- Amabutho ahlanganisa amaphesenti angu-61 abahlukumezi.
- Ama-Hispanics yilo mqhudelwano ovame ukuhloswe ngabaxhashazi.
- Amadoda amaningi (amaphesenti angu-70) ayenama-bullies nabesifazane yizinhloso ezivame ukuxhaphazwa (amaphesenti angu-60). Iziqhwaga zesifazane ngokuvamile zibhekiswe kwabanye besifazane (amaphesenti angu-80).
- Amaphesenti angaba ngu-81 abaqashi abonakala bengenzi lutho futhi emelana nokuthatha isinyathelo lapho izinhloso zokuxhaphaza zigcwalisa ucwaningo. Emphakathini jikelele, kuphela amaphesenti angu-44.8 abakwabaqashi abangenzi lutho.
- Amaphesenti angu-29 abasebenzi ababhekene nezihlukumezi abathuli ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
- Amaphesenti angama-71 okuphendula komqashi ayingozi emigomeni yomsebenzi yokuziphatha kabi.
- Amaphesenti angama-60 alabo abasebenza nabo okuhlosiwe ayingozi emigomeni yomhlukumezi.
- Ukumisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwendawo yokusebenza, amaphesenti angu-65 amathegethi alahlekelwa imisebenzi yawo yokuqala.
- Amaphesenti angu-40 abantu ababhekene nezinkinga zempilo ezihlobene nokucindezeleka ezinokuhlukunyezwa, kubandakanya ukukhathazeka okudambisa, ukuhlaselwa kwesibindi, nokucindezeleka komzimba (amaphesenti angu-39).
Indlela Yokubhekana Nesihluku
Ungabhekana nokuxhashazwa futhi ushintshe indlela yokuhlukumezeka uma uzimisele ukwenza isibindi sakho . Kodwa, kufanele wenze okuthile. Umhlukumezi ngeke ahambe; uma uzenza kube lula, uzokhuthaza kuphela ukuxhaphazwa. Uma ubekezelela ukuziphatha komhlukumezi, uqeqesha u-bully ukuba aqhubeke nezenzo ezingenacala.
Nansi indlela yokubhekana ne-ofisi yakho yokuhlukumezeka-ngokuphumelelayo kakhulu futhi okungase kube nomphumela wendawo yokusebenzela engekho intukuthelo. Ungakwenza.
Beka Ukulinganiselwa Kulokho Ozokwenzela Kubuhlungu
Okubaluleke nakakhulu, uma usubeke umkhawulo engqondweni yakho, sebenzisa ilungelo lakho lokutshela umhlukumezi ukuthi ayeke ukuziphatha . Ungase ufune ukuvuselela lezi zinyathelo nomngane ukuze ukhululeke ukuphendula lapho uhlaselwa ngu-bully.
- Chaza ukuziphatha okubonayo ukuxhaphazwa-ungahlezi ukuhlela noma ukunikeza imibono, vele uchaze lokho okubonayo. Ungasho ukuthi unamandla futhi uyingozi kimi. Ukuphawula okungenasici kumuntu ohlukumezayo. Kungcono? (Ufaka njalo i-cubicle yami, uncike phezu kwehlombe lami, futhi ufunde izincwadi zami siqu kwikhompyutha yami.)
- Tshela umhlukumezi ukuthi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ithinta kanjani umsebenzi wakho. (Ngoba umsebenzi wami omningi uyimfihlo, lezi zenzo zingenza ngizizwe sengathi ngidinga ukufihla lokho engikusebenzelayo kuwe, noma ukushintsha izikrini zekhompyutha okuyizinto ezichitha isikhathi sami.)
- Tshela u-bully ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha ongakubekeli esikhathini esizayo. (Esikhathini esizayo, awufanele ufake i-cubicle yami ngaphandle uma ngimema ukuba ungene. Lesi yisigaba sami sokusebenzela yangasese futhi izenzo zakho azamukeleki.)
- Namathela esitatimendeni sakho futhi uma u-bully ephula isikhala sakho, qhubekela phambili ekubhekisweni . (Awukwazi ukuvumela u-bully ukuba ahambe nokuziphatha ngisho nesikhathi esisodwa noma isisekelo owabeka ngokucophelela sichitha.)
Ukubhekana Nokuhlukumezeka Ngokuziphatha Kwakhe
Ukubhekana nokuxhashazwa kuyesabeka futhi kunzima . Kodwa, njengoba uJonathan Littman noMarc Hershon bebonisa ukuthi ngizonda Abantu , izihlukumezi "zisebenza kuphela uma zisemhlabathini oqinile. Ground ukuthi ungasusa. "Bakhombisa ukuthi" Ngesikhathi esilandelayo afunga noma ebeka incwadi yocingo, yibize. Khombisa ukuthi ufunga noma uyakhala, bese usuka ekamelweni. Noma uqede ucingo. "
"Khumbula: Ungumuntu omdala obhekana nokudabuka. Akekho umzali ohlakaniphile onika ingane ngendlela efanele ngoba iholela ekuhambeni okunye.
"Ushaye ulaka lwe-Bulldozer ngothando olunzima. Ngokwenza izitatimende ngokuziphatha kwakhe, uyamfaka. Gcina umdlalo wakho futhi ngomzamo wesibili noma wesithathu, i-Bulldozer izokhathala ukukhipha izinyathelo zakhe esihlabathini. "
Le ndlela yokuphikisa isebenza emihlanganweni , futhi. Uma umhlukumezi ekhuluma ngawe ngezikhalazo kanye nokugxekwa, mbuze umbuzo oqondile ngalokho akhuthazayo kunalokho. Uma lokho kungasebenzi umcele ukuthi ashiye umhlangano uze uqede ingxoxo yakho. Uma wenqaba, uqede umhlangano futhi uphinde uhleze umhlangano ngaphandle kwakhe.
Udinga ukubiza umhlukumezi ngemigomo yakho.
Dweba izenzo ze-Bully
Noma kunini lapho uhlushwa ukuxhashazwa noma ubhekene nokuziphatha okuxhashazayo, dokisa usuku, isikhathi kanye nemininingwane yalesi sigameko . Qaphela uma omunye umsebenzi ebone lesi sigameko. Uma ekugcineni ucela usizo oluvela kubasebenzi, imibhalo, ikakhulukazi imibhalo yethonya lomhlukumezi kwimiphumela yebhizinisi nempumelelo, inikeza ulwazi lwe-HR ukuthi lisebenzele wena. Umhlukumezi akugcini nje ukulimaza imizwa yakho; lo muntu ohlukumezayo uyabangela ukuphumelela kwebhizinisi.
Uma ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka ku-imeyili, imibhalo, noma izincwadi, gcina ikhophi enzima yomzila we-imeyili nemibhalo bese uwafakela kwifolda kwikhompyutha yakho.
Osebenza nabo Banguyizinhloso zobudlova, futhi
Qaphela ukuthi ngabe umhlukumezi udonsela ukuziphatha okufanayo nabasebenza nabo. Buza ozakwabo ukuthi babhale ukuziphatha komhlukumezi kanye nanoma yiziphi izigcawu abazibonela lapho umlutha uhlose noma yikuphi osebenza naye.
Uma abahlanu bakhozwa ukuhlukumezeka nabasebenza nabo abayisihlanu ukubhala ukuxhashazwa, khona-ke ukwakha icala lapho u-HR kanye nabaphathi bakho bengasabela khona emhlabathini oqinile. Badinga ubufakazi kanye nofakazi, ngisho noma ngabe wonke umuntu uyazi, ukuthi umhlukumezi uyisihlukumezi. Siza abasebenzi bakho be-HR bakusize.
Futhi, uma unquma ukucindezela amacala esikhathini esizayo, udinga ukuba nofakazi futhi ufake amaphepha. Ucwaningo lwangaphambili lwe-Zogby-WBTI lubonisa ukuthi kuphela amaphesenti amathathu kwabasebenzi abahlukunyezwayo kanye nabangamaphesenti angu-4 abakhononda ku-state noma e-federal agencies. Kodwa, lezi zinombolo zikhuphuka ngokuqaphela ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kuzuzile.
Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukubhekana nokuziphatha, kodwa ungaqedi ukuthi kungenzeka yini icala, ikakhulukazi uma umsebenzi wakho usuphelile noma usongelwa yi-bully.
Tshela Ukuphathwa Ne-HR Mayelana Nokuziphatha Kobungqingili
Uzame ukwenza lezi zincomo mayelana nendlela yokubhekana nokuziphatha komuntu ohlukumezayo, kodwa abasebenza ukuyeka ukuxhaphazwa. Isikhathi sokuthola usizo. Yiya ku-HR noma umphathi wakho ngobufakazi bakho, ikakhulukazi ubufakazi obonisa umthelela wenyunyana ebhizinisini, bese ufaka isikhalazo esisemthethweni . Iningi lamabhuku ezincwadi uchaza inqubo yophenyo yakwa-HR ukuthi isikhalazo sakho sibeka ukunyakaza.
Ithemba ngesinqumo esingcono kakhulu kodwa uzimisele ukuhlola ezinye izinketho ukuze uxhumane kancane no-bully. Ungadinga ngisho nokuthola umsebenzi omusha. Ngeke ukwazi ukuthi yini u-HR akwenza mayelana ne-bully; Ubumfihlo bakhe kanye nokuyimfihlo nakho okubalulekile. Kodwa, ungahlola umthelela wendlela abaphatha ngayo manje.
Ungakwazi ukubhekana nokuziphatha koxhashazi endaweni yakho yokusebenzela. Ngokuphikelela nesibindi somuntu siqu, ungakwazi ukunciphisa ukuziphatha koxhashazi futhi uphinde uthole indawo yakho yokusebenzela engahambisani nempi.
Bona okuningi mayelana nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nabantu abanzima .